My mother keeps asking me when I’ll be home again to visit her because I haven’t been back in a much longer time than is acceptable to her. Mother will have to wait a long while because everything I love, except her and my Daddy, is here in this land called California. Never, not even once, when I was a young girl growing up in Fruity Acres did I think that I’d become a Cali Girl. My dreams didn’t reach that far. The furthest they dared dream was New York City, where all my dancer friends also wanted to live, but somehow I didn’t end up at Pace University and I found myself building a life in California…full of fornication. ::smiles wildly::<
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My life has become entangled with this place they call California. My playground isn’t even that big of an area really because you won’t often find this girl too far south of Big Sur or north of the Nevada side of Lake Tahoe. In that small space of land I have memories that span back almost sixteen years…lovely, life shaping memories! I’ll be 34 in January…January 8 to be exact. Like most people before a new year and another birthday I am reflecting on where I’ve been and where I am going. Thinking back caused me to notice that much of my pain, happiness, my ups and downs as an adult happened here in my dear California.
In the coming weeks as MMX wraps up I’ll be sharing with y’all how this South Florida chica by way of Cuba became a totally brand new Cali Girl. It will all be totally out of order…never been one for telling it chronologically…would much rather hit y’all with the memories as they hit me. So, what’s to come?
- Lake Tahoe…a spot associated with many of my beginnings…from marriage and conception to skiing and snowboarding to changing the path of my business and hopefully this summer mountain biking.
- Napa and Lake Berryessa…finding the beauty, laughter and building friendships there before and after the death of my daughter. Can’t forget the tale about how I basically got two boyfriends to come with me to the lake…yes, together all three of us plus the friend who would be the Best Man at my wedding to one of the other two. ::wonders how a man hasn’t gone mad due to my madness and killed me yet::
- San Francisco…probably the MOST beautiful big city in the world…at least to me! So, many stories to share about this place but I’ll be focusing on two: loving Jungle Fever and growing past being a cunt.
- Monterrey…more reflection on loving Jungle Fever and sharing how it became a favorite family destination.
- Travis Air Force Base…I could go on for years about this place but I’ll stick to just a few stories about some of the best fuckery provided by the most vivid characters from those years.
- Discovery Bay…a beautiful place with a facade of utopia covering the real ugly…both within my home and outside.
These upcoming posts are my stroll down memory lane before turning right or left and you are welcome to come along. Like I said the posts will be random and there is no guarantee that I will even end up telling all those stories listed above because I often swerve. Look for the first installment this week.
In other news, I am going to kick this site in the teeth really hard. I have been thinking and pondering much of my purpose and all of that and beyond leading me to several choices. One of those choices is that YES, indeed SexLoveJoy.com will finally be born. It has taken me almost two years to accept that path but after reading all your emails, tweets, DMs, Facebook messages, texts and maybe a message or two via pigeon I realized that I shouldn’t fight what I am meant to do. The other major change which I am willing to share, at this time, is that this site will become strictly a place to house my writing…The Cocktales, my creative writing pieces and my online journal. A few friends have suggested that I write a memoir but I cannot stomach the ego that it takes to actually think that anyone would read such a book about me but I will keep sharing my memoirs as random journal posts here on the blog. There is a lot more to come…specifically…I’ll be spending much of MMXI writing the book I’ve started…a one hundred percent fictional novel about well what else other than…you’ll have to buy it and read it to find out. These FOUR in the morning wake ups have not been just for shits and giggles…just because I’m not blogging doesn’t mean I am not writing.
As always, I appreciate you reading and I hope you keep reading! The journey continues…

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