Lidia-Anain

Nov

14

giving him the foreplay he needs

For me not getting enough good sex is a deal breaker for a relationship, but I’ve never been quick to quit an otherwise healthy romance without trying to fix the problems in the bedroom. I know that at times women are a bit harsh and might even expect too much from men sexually.

The usual narrative for heterosexual sex is that the men are supposed to take the lead in the bedroom while women are supposed to sit back and enjoy the man’s performance. The alternative narrative among the more liberated is that women also can initiate sex but usually men are still expected to do much of the work after she’s expressed interest in having sex.

Oct

03

pleasure of pleasuring

orgasm & pleasure / sex & sexuality / sex love joy archives

With the right person in the right place at the right time doing all the right things that brings me great pleasure!

When done properly and explored fully there is nothing more sensual than giving someone else pleasure. Although getting your partner to orgasm can bring you joy there is much more to attaining pleasure from pleasuring than bringing them to the moment of climax. Sight, touch, taste, smell and hearing the gateways to sexual euphoria should all be unlocked as you make love to your partner. Pleasuring involves respecting all the senses and learning what is the key that promotes pleasure through each. Exploring the intricate details of how to get each sense to bring your partner pleasure requires you to be more alert, receptive and responsive. Being alert, receptive and responsive to your partners sexual likes, dislikes, wants, and needs helps heightens your own sexual awareness.

Mar

31

The Benevolent Dictator – Who Should Hold the Power in a Relationship? by Max

naked candor / sex love joy archives

In an ideal world, a relationship would be like a perfectly-balanced see saw. Each side would be of the same weight and when one side went up, the other would go down (pause?) to compensate. No one side would ever be above the other; instead there would be the perfect, harmonious balance that has everyone on equal footing at all times.

In the real world though, we know that relationships don’t work that way. In most romantic relationships, there is a lover and a loved. Sometimes that just happens organically and other times it’s by design. Sometimes the titles shift fluidly from one partner to another as the relationship grows and develops. But always, there is a balance of power.

Feb

14

The Kissing Game by WisdomIsMisery

naked candor / sex love joy archives

People Don’t Kiss No More All They Do Is Fuck

This might or might not be news to you but there are women out there who place their pussy below their mouths and not just anatomically speaking. Now, I will readily admit that I have had sex with women who didn’t want to kiss because kissing was considered “too personal.” I discussed this with a few other women and they thought this made perfect sense.

This does not make sense, but because I’m a man and I like sex, I pretty much roll with whatever rules and regulations the woman has and then I opine, mule and meander over it post-orgasm. Then in some cases, like this case for example, I write about it.

Feb

10

you don’t have to wait until valentine’s to be great at love!

love & relationships / sex love joy archives

It is almost Valentine’s Day! I’m so not excited! ::sighs::

I might not love the idea of Valentine’s but I won’t be a Sour Sally by writing a negative post about how I think it is a silly holiday that is a great economical boost for the flower, greeting card and chocolate industries. No, I just won’t do that and I won’t give you five tips for this or that to make your Valentine’s more romantic, sensual or exotic. Nope, won’t do that either. Instead I’ll give you one quick tip that might help you insure that the man or woman that will be your Valentine this year will be your Valentine again next year. Yes, this post is for those of you that have been in a relationship and want to keep it that way.

Jan

31

laughter – the world’s most powerful aphrodisiac

diary / love & relationships / sex love joy archives

There is no defense or offense that will work when he or she can ALWAYS make you laugh.

I’m smiling but I’m NOT laughing!

Is the only defense answer I can muster in those moments when my best friend of the last thirteen years makes me laugh even when I don’t want to…even when I know he is laughing at me and not with me. Laughing at me? Yes. That’s when you know that it is love when your ego retracts and it allows you to let that guard down. All the way down and you can let go and laugh at yourself. He makes me laugh at myself.

Jan

27

Putting Your Sexy Forward by Tygerlily

naked candor / sex love joy archives

If you are single, and you are 27 years of age or older, you must, I repeat, YOU MUST put your sexy forward at all times when you are interested in somebody. Gone are the days when you could afford to be ONLY girl-next-door-cutesy where you could just bat your eyes, and the boy would get the hint. He’s not gonna send you a note asking “Do you like me? Check _______yes ________no _______maybe.”

Jul

28

sis, think about what love truly means…

love & relationships / sex love joy archives

You, are one of the lucky ones who was fortunate enough to have attained a good education, you don’t have a job instead you have a career, you have all the things you need, you even have many of the the things you want and everything else is not far from your grasp, except for that man on your list. Yes, you’re one of those ladies that comes equipped with a “wish list” and to it you stick when it comes to finding your man, without budging about the things you want because anything else would be settling. Well, go on girl! Get that perfect man. Wait!

Apr

28

rebounding the right way

love & relationships / sex love joy archives

When love ends too often people close their hearts and do all the wrong things only to find themselves back where they started again with yet another broken heart. I’ve seen it all. The friend that jumps from bed to bed chasing after orgasms. The friend that turns the dude that should have been a rebound hump into her Mr. Right. I’ve also even seen the friend who pours herself into her career or her children entirely with such a closed heart that she won’t date at all and denies that she has any sexual needs whatsoever. I don’t want to be any of these women. Not that I judge my friends or people…I’m just old enough to know that none of those things will work for me. Where do I go from here? How do you move forward when a relationship is over, you aren’t quite ready for another but you can’t deny that you’re an adult with both sexual and emotional needs?

Apr

14

forget gifts and romance – bring me all your passion!

love & relationships / sex love joy archives

Dating to me is a trial and error process…a hunt for someone who “gets” you. Years of dating and many years of marriage taught me that what this “get” really means is that we need someone who understands how we express love and how we expect love to be shown to us. There are those of us that speak only one love language, some speak more than one language fluently, while others like me are conversational in a few but only fluent in one, and I am sure there are few who are fluent in none. There are many factors which nurture and hinder our love language development but for this discussion the whys and hows we learned to speak love are not important. Today, we are discussing the fact that each of us speaks a love language of our very own and how finding someone who is fluent in our love language is the key to creating happiness in love.

Mar

31

you gave away my smile

diary / love & relationships / sex love joy archives

The moment you walked into that office I told myself, “PLEASE DON’T do anything stupid with him!” and it wasn’t long before I did the smartest stupid thing I have EVER done but that happens to be another part of our story. This is the part where you gave my smile away. This is the part in which I stopped trusting you. This is definitely the part when I stopped being your girl.

Mar

17

Press Rewind

prose & fiction / sex love joy archives

I hear you call my name from the kitchen from my dream I awake. I pull the covers back off my body to realize I am completely naked. My mind recalls the night before making my skin warm, I smile and reach for your t-shirt on the back of the chair. Your scent envelops me as your t-shirt slides down my curves. Now, I can’t wait to get to the kitchen to see your smiling face. As I come around the corner I see you standing at the stove with your back to me, you’re in your striped pajama pants and no shirt. Your athletic body was one of the first things that attracted me. You call out for me again letting me know that you’ve made breakfast and you add that there’s bacon. I giggle at that, you hear me and turn. You start speaking as my mind focuses on your chest. It’s been too long since I’ve rested my head in your chest, too long since you’ve held me, so I walk towards you and you pull me close. You’re telling me something but I’m not listening my mind is on what I’ve been missing.

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People Don’t Kiss No More All They Do Is Fuck

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